My one year old is walking! Everywhere! He has lost all interest in crawling and is toddling away and constantly falling on his bottom. He looks so funny. His legs are bowed in a way that makes me think of a walking gorilla. Come to think of it, the sounds he is making are somewhat gorilla-like as well, lots of gutteral gesticulations and pointy fingers.
The fact that he is such a tiny tot makes it seem even more surreal as he looks like he should still be lying down, just attempting the crawl. Instead he waddles into the bathroom first thing in the morning whilst I’m having a shower and looks up at me with his massive toothy (two teeth now) grin, all wide-eyed and bushy haired. If I could pack him in my bag and take him off to work with me I would. He is that precious!
My 3 year old on the other hand….has developed a bit of an attitude. I’m convinced he thinks he a grown up already. He even has the grown up sarcastic looks down to a tee. If I tell him off he sticks his chin down and raises his eyes and looks me in the eyes with a pinched expression on his face. That’s my “what do you think you are playing at” look, and he has pinched it. And all I can do is try to look away so I don’t burst out laughing. Attitude I tell you!
Get the pair of them together and you either have a recipe for disaster or just plain old noise. Sunday afternoon being a case in point. We’d just ate lunch and were all sitting in the living room watching the rain trickling down the windows when the 1yo pinches a toy from the 3yo’s hands and walks off with it. Of course, Will (3) was having none of it and promptly pinched it back, which resulted in a mini tantrum from Joe (1) who tried, and failed, to get the toy back.
Now I am quite capable of enforcing discipline on a situation, but before I can even bend down so I am at their level – a Supernanny tip – Will is berating Joe on his behaviour: “No Joe, you mustn’t pinch toys. That’s naughty”. Since when did my 3yo become the local enforcer!?
Given that Joe is still wailing, I try to calm the situation by offering Joe a different toy to play with, but Will is having none of it and explains to me that Joe isn’t allowed a toy now because he’s been naughty. Well, excuse me Mr Parenting 101, but who’s the parent here? Try and reason with a 3yo who knows (or thinks he knows) the rules and you may as well be shoutig for help from the top of a mountain.
Which comes to my question…how do you enforce discipline but then take away that enforced discipline if you don’t want to use it on one particular occasion? You try and teach them rules to live by and then they throw them back in your face simply to make your life just that little bit harder. Damn you Supernanny with your consistency rules that just aren’t always convenient.
I’m thinking the 3yo is too clever for me. And I’m scared for the future. He already has manipulation down as one of his many skills. The 1yo can still be controlled. I will focus my powers of motherhood on him, and hope that the 3yo doesn’t shout at me for doing so.